How To Define Your Ideal Egg Donor: Aligning Traits, Personality & More
When searching for an ideal egg donor, it’s common to consider physical traits, but we encourage intended parents to look deeper. We are seeing our recipient parents increasingly looking for donors whose personalities, values, and life outlook align with their own. Whether you're hoping for future contact or simply want to feel connected to the person helping build your family, defining your ideal donor goes beyond “surface” traits. At Everie, we’ll help you explore holistic qualities to consider and share how our unique Mutual Match™ program ensures your choice feels intentional, informed, and aligned with your vision for the future.
What Is Mutual Match™?
At Everie, we take a collaborative and intentional approach to egg donation. Our first-of-its-kind Mutual Match™ program is designed to help both recipient parents and egg donors establish a strong foundation of shared values. We value and encourage transparency that fosters support for recipient parents and the donor-conceived children.
Our unique matching model moves egg donation beyond the traditional transactional approach by prioritizing real human connection and informed consent at the center of every match.
Recipient parents can express interest in a potential donor by outlining the type of donation arrangement they’re most comfortable with and providing any non-identifying details they'd like to share. The donor then reviews this information, and when there’s mutual alignment, the match proceeds, deliberately and with care.
Considerations for Choosing an Egg Donor
If you choose to grow your family with Everie, you will begin by creating an Everie account and registering to view our database. This is where you will find your future ideal egg donor.
We encourage you and your partner (if you have one) to take some time to consider what is most important to you before you begin choosing an egg donor. Decide what matters most to you, not just in a donor, but in your future children as well.
Defining Traits
We invite you to expand and personalize this list of criteria as much as you’d like. Think beyond physical attributes and consider deeper traits that you would be happy to have passed down to your children. After all, your donor will contribute half of your baby’s biology! So, defining the qualities most important to you when considering your future child(ren) is a crucial step in the egg donor selection process.
When you search through our database, recipient parents can evaluate donor candidates based upon several criteria, including:
Physical attributes
Health
Genetics
Ethnicity
Identity sharing
Donor experience
While these markers will help you identify amazing potential donors, you can deepen your search even more by looking at factors such as a donor's:
Personality traits
Interests
Education
Intelligence
Culture
Religion
Personal values
If these holistic qualities carry greater value for you than physical attributes, or an equal amount of importance, we welcome you to dive deeper into our donor profiles to learn about the women who are eager to help. If openness and long-term connection are important to you, you may also appreciate learning about the benefits of choosing open (known) egg donors.
Personality and Interests
With so much detailed information available, it’s easy to get caught up in profiles and data, but it’s just as important to see the woman behind it all. Photos and videos can bring an egg donor’s story to life, but there’s no substitute for meeting and connecting over a video call to get a true sense of connection and compatibility. See how our process for recipient parents supports these conversations.
An egg donor offers more than just her biology; she may also pass on qualities like musical talent, athleticism, or even aspects of her personality. Her voice, demeanor, and the way she carries herself can all help paint a fuller, more meaningful picture of the child she might help create.
Education and Intelligence
You might be interested in your ideal egg donor’s penchant for education and learning. You can find out how high an education they received or how they fared in school. You may even want to know what type of intelligence they naturally seem to exhibit: naturalistic, logical, mathematical, linguistic, verbal, etc.
Culture
As the parents, you will share your own culture with your future child. Your donor, however, might have an ethnicity and cultural practices that are different from your own. Consider whether that is something important to you, not just because ethnicity is something physically passed down, but because it might affect the choices you will make regarding traditions and values with your own child.
Religion and Personal Values
You will most likely choose to raise your child within your religious practice, if you have one. However, you can consider whether or not it’s important to you that your donor shares your religious beliefs and/or simply shares the same personal values. These are some factors outside of genetics that shape who we are as people.
Finding Your Egg Donor
Once you’ve decided what is most important to you, be it physical or holistic attributes, in an ideal egg donor, you can begin your search. Our egg donor database will show you all of our active donors, from which you can narrow your search using the navigation bar's list of searchable criteria to filter through the candidates.
After applying your search filters, you can dive deeper into individual donors’ profiles by viewing their Summary Cards and clicking on Donor Details for further information. You can also take notes for later reference and “favorite” your top choices.
In addition, we offer recipient parents the ability to build Comparison Reports and create PDF booklets for specific donors. These are a great way to include your partner and loved ones as you narrow your search.
Get Started Today
If you want to find your ideal egg donor today, register to become a recipient parent through Everie and get the utmost guidance in choosing an egg donor. We look forward to hearing from you!